LOVE = Love Outspokenly Verbally Expressively

Love - such a beautiful emotion.
Isn't it even more wonderful that it does not have any one way only, of expressing it?! :)

There are all possible ways of loving.
The last post was about loving quietly, lovingly, silently.

This one (thanks to Word Porn's inspiration again), is about being expressive and outspoken in loving your love.

Image Courtesy: Word Porn

Even if what you are saying is at the cost of sounding repetitive, say it, if your heart feels just that.

Even if what you are saying might seem that your love knows it, no problem in being boring as long as you are true and genuine in your words, and not saying for just saying sake!

You are fine in every quiet, restrained way too, and even in the outspoken, unabashed way too.As long as you are sincere and genuinely feel & as long as you mean every word you are saying (or not saying), you are fine!

So go ahead, and leave how you express your love to your personal choice.
But do love, if you truly do :)
The way you want.
The one you want.

Truly.
Irresistibly.
Happily.
Unabashedly.
Unconditionally.
Forever.

Loving - quietly, lovingly, silently

It is not for nothing that they silence, at the appropriate moments, is golden.

And since this post deals with the subject of understanding, less/no words and just supporting quietly without talking too much, let me simply share this:

Courtesy: Word Porn Quotes (Internet)

This is all that one needs to do, at times.
Just hear, just listen, just understand, just support. Genuinely. Quietly.

Yet, such comforting and reassurance is able to clearly make one's love palpable enough.

Stay with your sugar, all through.
As she shares, as she talks, hear and understand her intently, 'coz that's a sure sign that you love and value her immensely :)

Cheers...
To love, to listening, to sharing, to hearing, to healing each other, and to feeling each other, the way it should always be in love - irresistibly, happily, unconditionally, forever :)

Aansu bhi, hote hain dil ki zubaan..

शायद होती है आंसुओं की भी एक भाषा अनूठी सी

आते हैं तभी, जब खुद से आँखें हों रूठी सी 

सिखाते हैं आंसू, जीना

जीते जी, हर ग़म को पीना

टूट कर बिखरने लगती है जब दिल की ज़मीं
छलक पड़ते हैं आँखों से वो तब, वहीं
   

यूँ ही तो नहीं आ सकते हैं ना वो, किसी के भी लिए...

गंगा जमनुा बहेगी भी तब, जब दिल कराह के कहे...

हाँ, यूँ तो ये सच है और रहेगा भी, कि कुछ भी शर्त या उम्मीद नहीं रखी है वैसे

पर उनपे लुट चुके इस दिल को कैसे मनाएं, कि उनके बिना जियें, तो जियें कैसे?

You know what..

"You know what, sugar.."

"Hmm..."

"Even after knowing and loving you so much over all these years, I have been getting the feeling that I am even more close to you now. Is it because you love me even more now?"

":) No, sugar...this is because YOU love me even more now :)"

He

Though he was well-off, he could've made even more money, but stopped.
He listened to his heart before pursuing anything, and so the plan got dropped.

It was no issue for him to take a car when alone, but he loved walking any day.
He just walked, because it kept his feet on the ground - in more than one way.

He felt admired a lot, with most calling him nice, likeable, brainy, witty, funny, though nothing great.
Because while liking and respecting every compliment, he never ever gave any of it, much weight.

He got everything pretty easily, so he didn't strive for more.
Resting, chilling, enjoying - made him lose focus from the core.

Life is not just about living, but also about making a difference.
If we are not striving to always get better, we are losing its inference.

The story is still in progress, there's a lot more that still needs to be written.
Hope he lives and loves well. To life and love, he will always remain smitten. 

To Love, With Love!

She was there, he was here.

They knew they could not become a pair.

Yet, their hearts, could never stop loving any less.

Being without each other, they were a complete mess.

They kept fulfilling their duties, gave everything their blood and sweat.

But away from one another, though their hearts cried, only the eyes looked wet.

They always knew that loving each other did not seem, as per analysis, like a deal which would give gain.

But for them, continuing to love and do everything for their beloved, was worth taking up life’s every pain.

They learned that love never snatches, just happens, and stays, even if you deny or make a fuss.

How we treat it, honor it, fulfill it, and live for it, fail for it, doing all we can for our love – is upto us.

They kept loving each other, without thinking of looking like selfish, stupid or clever.

All they knew was, that this love was Genuine, Irresistible and Unconditional, Forever.

God and the Devil

To my family (my parents, my in-laws, brother's family, in-laws' family), and of course, to Priyanka and Pranav Dhaundiyal :

The entire credit for this post goes to my son, Pranav - who wants me to write about God and The Devil.

I have often wondered, what defines a good human being.
We keep listening, reading, learning about becoming good, doing good, etc.
But what exactly does all this mean?

What constitutes the definition of a good person when we have both God and Devil, all within us?


There have been so many occasions when I have been rude to my family members. There have been so many occasions when I have hurt others.

There have been times when I have felt, appreciated, and given love. There have also been times when I have been happy about my conduct my heart, and my belief system.

Yes, quite simply, a good person is someone who, while conquering his inner demons, devils and weaknesses, also champions every effort channelizing on his positive, selfless, love-filled side.

True, life is full of challenges and temptations presented by the devils.
However, opportunities to be selfless and loving, abound aplenty too.

It is up to us to make the decision.
It is up to us to choose.
Every moment we spend, every decision we take, every action we make: let's ask ourselves:
In doing or not doing anything, are we siding with our inner God or our inner Devil?
If we can decide and act in consonance with this question as our guiding principle, I am sure, eventually, we would be happy with the way we led our lives :)

And no reason to worry about making this a tall order. Let's just climb one step at a time.
One day at a time, one act at a time, one decision at a time.


Hopefully, every such effort will be an exercise in making us a better person, a closer-to-God-than-to-Devil person every single day!

It will be a loooong and tiring journey of questioning ourselves everyday, but surely, this is one query which will be worth all the effort!

It is our life, and therefore, our own responsibility to do all we can, to make our inner God stronger every day, and vanquish any vestiges of anything negative or devilish from within.

Happy Raksha Bandhan!!

One of the many amazing things about living in India is the sheer abundance of festivities that celebrate some occasion or the other.

Being a melting pot of a huge chunk of humanity, practicing multiple faiths and belief systems, something or the other is always going on (or, worst case, just round the corner) at any given point of time!

However, even among the multitude of such events, there is a day that always stands out for me: Raksha Bandhan.
There aren't many occasions as pious as a day celebrating the love of a brother for his sister, and vice versa.

Without even any religious copyrights or boundaries, one that is completely understood, liked, practiced across all faiths - appropriately enough, because its idea and concept is not endemic to a religion but to humanity. No wonder, any sane person/family appreciates, understands, and even practices it, irrespective of any religious affiliation.

A day that also recounts and reaffirms a brother's duty and sense of responsibility for his sister.

Quietly.
Piously.
Warmly.
A simple ceremony where the sister ties a rakhi on her brother's hand, does a simple teeka/tilak, followed by a pooja (equating and acknowledging a brother to no less than a divine blessing), and the brother too, as a token of his love, exchanging sweets, gifting his sister, and most importantly, acknowledging, appreciating, and reaffirming his love and responsibility towards her.

Without any shenanigans.
Nothing over the top.
Nothing against any other festival but this is a day, which neither carries the baggage of liquor-induced tamasha of a Holi nor the agonizingly gory display of self-inflicted violence of a Muharram. Heck, not even the ear-deafening blitzkreig on a Diwali.

Nice, plain, and simple.

As part of a sense of the occasion, what is also worth sharing and is something I've always felt could be extremely helpful in today's times of lack of trust and safety for women, is a sense of responsibility towards every woman.

I must also confess that it would be too idealistic or foolhardy to expect that everyone should see every woman (except his wife) as his sister only.
Yes, this ain't Satyug yet.

However, what surely is possible, is that no one should count it as his right to harass anyone.
You might not need to see/call everyone as your sister but please do have a sense of responsibility towards everyone's sister.

This video (courtesy/credit: Varun Pruthi) is perhaps a wonderful example of what it is truly, to celebrate Raksha Bandhan, in the best way not only on just that day, but also on every single day.

A nice, simple, and wonderful way to make our society better.

We have also had cases of women misusing their current status to manipulate/harass men too, but I believe, that just like most men aren't bad, most women aren't either.
Just a case of a few rotten apples on both sides, who unfortunately, tend to dominate our view when it comes to forming opinions about any person/gender.

So if I can ask anything of every guy, it is only this much:
Even if you cannot call everyone your sister, let us all make sure that we protect and care for not only our sister(s), but also everyone else's.
No one (across any gender) has the right to harass any individual.

Perhaps the day when we could see every guy adopting such an attitude as part of his core, conscious belief-system, that day would be the day when we would be making our world such an infinitely safer and better place.
That would be the best way to celebrate Raksha Bandhan!

Here's to a much happier, safer, caring, responsible, and empathetic world: Happy Raksha Bandhan!!

Hichkiyaan

हिचकियाँ 

कहते हैं कि कोई याद करे, तो हिचकियाँ आती हैं
कोई दिल से बुलाये, तो गले के ज़रिये बताती हैं |

माफ़ कीजियेगा, पर ये तो है एक झूठ सफ़ेद
वरना मेरे याद करने पर ही क्यों करेंगी वो ऐसा भेद ?

उनके आने-ना आने का तो राज़ नहीं जानता हूँ
पर अपने मन की भावनाओं को तो पहचानता हूँ ।

उनके प्यार में अंकित आँखें सिर्फ उन्ही के लिए नम हैं,
उनकी मिठास के आगे दुनिया भर की चीनी भी कम है।

जिसने हमेशा मुझे हर पल सिर्फ और सिर्फ बेशुमार प्यार दिया,
जिसके लिए दिल की धड़कनों ने पागल हो जाने का इज़हार किया
उस पर  कैसे ना हो ये दिल हमेशा के लिए निसार ?
कैसे न निभाऊं मैं उस से, ज़िन्दगी भर अपनी तरफ से भी प्यार?

आखिर क्यों ये दिल उनसे दूर होकर भी हर दर्द ख़ुशी से पीता है?
क्यों ये मन हर वक़्त, हर पल सिर्फ और सिर्फ उन ही के लिए जीता है?

तुमसे प्यार सिर्फ कह के नहीं,
हर तरह से कर के भी निभाउंगा 
जो भी तुम्हें ख़ुशी देगी,
हर वो बात, हर चीज़ ख़ुशी से कर जाऊँगा ।

जैसा भी हूँ, हो सके तो रखना विश्वास,
कि मैं ख़ुशी से हूँ हर पल तुम्हारे साथ
तुम्हें प्यार करता था, करता  हूँ,करता रहूँगा,
हमेशा थामे रखूँगा तुम्हारा हाथ।

झूठ कहते हैं लोग, कि किसी को याद करने पर हिचकियाँ ज़रूर ही आ सकेंगी
ग़र ये सच होता ना मेरी जान, तो तुम्हारी हिचकियाँ तो कभी भी ना जा सकेंगी ।  :)

Straight from my heart

Sometimes, words are not enough, to express what we feel..
Sometimes, the heart takes more importance, than every logical appeal..

I feel when that happens, it's an indication from someone above..
It's at these moments that one understands the true meaning of love..

The only thing that matters, is to make you genuinely and heartily smile..
To get you that sparkle in your eyes, every single day, not just in a while..

To keep you happy, is the only thing I love doing, without questioning why..
'Coz my own life & happiness, is all about your smile, till I live, & till I die.

Nothing is sweet, without sugar

This might seem a delusional post but I am well and truly in my senses as I write this.
There are times when one does not like sugar, after reading or hearing about its possible disadvantages on one's health.

Yet, one cannot do without it.
There are times when we detest or avoid something just to satisfy and rationalize those thoughts in our mind.
Just to ensure that we are avoiding or sacrificing an idea, a choice, a liking - only to suit our needs.

Yes, there could be reasons to avoid sugar.
But if you truly love sugar, you would never be able to find a suitable replacement for it.
Heck, you would not want to even consider a replacement for it.

For all the talk about its disadvantages, one who loves sugar, will always love it, and will never find sweetness anywhere else, through anything else.

After all, this is what love is.
One can happily risk all its associated risks, challenges, possible side-effects, and can not avoid or resist it even after making all plans or efforts to stay away from sugar.
That's why it's love!! :)


No wonder, nothing can beat, having sugar.
No wonder, nothing is sweet, without sugar.